A new baby is coming, and instead of a traditional baby shower filled with games and gifts, some expecting parents are inviting friends and family over to… clean? Welcome to the latest trend in motherhood: the nesting party.
Like it or not, nesting parties are making waves—and sparking serious debate.
What Is a Nesting Party?
A nesting party is a gathering organized by a pregnant woman (or her close circle) where loved ones come over to help her prepare the home before the baby arrives. This might include:
- Organizing the nursery
- Cleaning the kitchen or fridge
- Folding baby clothes
- Stocking the freezer with meals
- Assembling furniture or baby gear
It’s less about socializing and more about lending a hand during the exhausting final weeks of pregnancy.
Why Some People Love the Idea
1. It’s Practical Help, Not Just Presents
Instead of receiving a fourth wipe warmer or frilly newborn outfit, nesting parties give moms what they really need—support and rest.
2. It’s Rooted in Community
In many cultures, community care is the norm. Friends and family naturally pitch in to help moms-to-be. Nesting parties are a modern take on that tradition.
3. Not Everyone Has a Village
For single moms, immigrants, or women with distant families, rallying a few trusted friends to help around the house can be a lifeline.
Why Others Say “No Thanks”
1. “I’m Not Your Maid”
Some see nesting parties as crossing a line—asking guests to do chores or deep clean a bathroom feels inappropriate to them.
2. Awkward Social Dynamics
What if a guest doesn’t know anyone else? Or hates cleaning? Traditional showers are easier to navigate for many.
3. It Can Feel One-Sided
Critics say it puts pressure on people to give their time, energy, and labor when they’re already expected to bring gifts or support the family in other ways.
So… Is It a Good Idea?
It depends on the context. If your group of friends is hands-on, supportive, and open to pitching in, a nesting party can be a beautiful gesture of solidarity. But if it’s sprung on guests with vague expectations or without sensitivity, it can feel awkward or even exploitative.
The key? Communication and consent. If people are invited with love and clarity—”come help fold baby clothes while we chat and eat snacks”—they can choose whether it’s something they want to participate in.
My Take
Honestly? I think nesting parties can be amazing if done with the right spirit. They’re not about turning friends into housekeepers—they’re about reclaiming support in a culture that often leaves new moms overwhelmed and isolated.
But like all trends, it’s not for everyone—and that’s okay. Whether you host one or not, what matters most is that moms feel loved, supported, and prepared.